The Buddha shares ten ways to remove resentment by changing one’s perspective on harmful actions.
“Dasayime, bhikkhave, āghātapaṭivinayā. Katame dasa? ‘Anatthaṁ me acari, taṁ kutettha labbhā’ti āghātaṁ paṭivineti, ‘anatthaṁ me carati, taṁ kutettha labbhā’ti āghātaṁ paṭivineti, ‘anatthaṁ me carissati, taṁ kutettha labbhā’ti āghātaṁ paṭivineti, piyassa me manāpassa anatthaṁ acari …pe… carati …pe… carissati, taṁ kutettha labbhāti āghātaṁ paṭivineti, appiyassa me amanāpassa atthaṁ acari …pe… atthaṁ carati …pe… atthaṁ carissati, taṁ kutettha labbhāti āghātaṁ paṭivineti, aṭṭhāne ca na kuppati— ime kho, bhikkhave, dasa āghātapaṭivinayā”ti.
“Bhikkhus, there are these ten ways for removing |resentment::annoyance, irritation, loathing; lit. collision [āghāta]|. What ten? 1.) Thinking: ‘They harmed me, but what can be done about that?’ one removes resentment. 2.) Thinking: ‘They are harming me, but what can be done about that?’ one removes resentment. 3.) Thinking: ‘They will harm me, but what can be done about that?’ one removes resentment. 4.) Thinking: ‘They harmed someone dear and agreeable to me, but what can be done about that?’ one removes resentment. 5.) Thinking: ‘They are harming someone dear and agreeable to me, but what can be done about that?’ one removes resentment. 6.) Thinking: ‘They will harm someone dear and agreeable to me, but what can be done about that?’ one removes resentment. 7.) Thinking: ‘They acted for the benefit of someone who is displeasing and disagreeable to me, but what can be done about that?’ one removes resentment. 8.) Thinking: ‘They are acting for the benefit of someone who is displeasing and disagreeable to me, but what can be done about that?’ one removes resentment. 9.) Thinking: ‘They will act for the benefit of someone who is displeasing and disagreeable to me, but what can be done about that?’ one removes resentment. 10.) And one does not get |upset::agitated, disturbed, shaken [kuppati]| without a reason. These, bhikkhus, are the ten ways for removing resentment.”
“Bhikkhus, there are these ten ways for removing |resentment::annoyance, irritation, loathing; lit. collision [āghāta]|. What ten? 1.) Thinking: ‘They harmed me, but what can be done about that?’ one removes resentment. 2.) Thinking: ‘They are harming me, but what can be done about that?’ one removes resentment. 3.) Thinking: ‘They will harm me, but what can be done about that?’ one removes resentment. 4.) Thinking: ‘They harmed someone dear and agreeable to me, but what can be done about that?’ one removes resentment. 5.) Thinking: ‘They are harming someone dear and agreeable to me, but what can be done about that?’ one removes resentment. 6.) Thinking: ‘They will harm someone dear and agreeable to me, but what can be done about that?’ one removes resentment. 7.) Thinking: ‘They acted for the benefit of someone who is displeasing and disagreeable to me, but what can be done about that?’ one removes resentment. 8.) Thinking: ‘They are acting for the benefit of someone who is displeasing and disagreeable to me, but what can be done about that?’ one removes resentment. 9.) Thinking: ‘They will act for the benefit of someone who is displeasing and disagreeable to me, but what can be done about that?’ one removes resentment. 10.) And one does not get |upset::agitated, disturbed, shaken [kuppati]| without a reason. These, bhikkhus, are the ten ways for removing resentment.”
“Dasayime, bhikkhave, āghātapaṭivinayā. Katame dasa? ‘Anatthaṁ me acari, taṁ kutettha labbhā’ti āghātaṁ paṭivineti, ‘anatthaṁ me carati, taṁ kutettha labbhā’ti āghātaṁ paṭivineti, ‘anatthaṁ me carissati, taṁ kutettha labbhā’ti āghātaṁ paṭivineti, piyassa me manāpassa anatthaṁ acari …pe… carati …pe… carissati, taṁ kutettha labbhāti āghātaṁ paṭivineti, appiyassa me amanāpassa atthaṁ acari …pe… atthaṁ carati …pe… atthaṁ carissati, taṁ kutettha labbhāti āghātaṁ paṭivineti, aṭṭhāne ca na kuppati— ime kho, bhikkhave, dasa āghātapaṭivinayā”ti.
